Limiting beliefs - don't allow them to get in the way of what you truly want to achieve
In the past, you may have tried many times to achieve your ideal weight and fitness goals. What usually tends to happen when you embark on a new diet is that you start out feeling motivated, you've told yourself off for overeating in the past and embarked on a strict new regime and you are 100 % committed. You may set off well, achieving initial weight loss, however pretty soon you reach a plateau, maybe you get your period, have an eating binge and think you’ve gained weight as a consequence, you feel bored with the restricted food you are eating or simply too hungry with uncontrollable cravings. And then, in a flash - you 'drop off the wagon'. After a few days you re-gain all the weight you lost (maybe more), you return to unhealthy ways of eating and then declare that nothing works. You may have told yourself that you cannot change, that things will always be this way and that change is too difficult. Does this sound familiar?
There may be a part of you that is keeping you "stuck" because you are actually afraid of failure and this is what has repeatedly happened in the past. Everyone has a fear of disappointment but what you must remember is that the way things have been in the past is not the way things must be in future. Maybe that diet just didn’t work for you and there is a new promising more positive method that will get you the results you want. Also ask yourself: am I setting targets that are too high, perhaps unreachable for me because they are too vast? Instead of punishing yourself as a failure, maybe you're just getting feedback that highly restrictive diets don't work because they are not sustainable.
So from this day forward I encourage you to try something new - be kind to yourself - imagine you are your own best friend!
On my nutrition and coaching programme, I encourage my clients to get rid of the word 'diet' and to start eating optimally so that their body and mind are fully satisfied with regular meals and snacks, all the vitamins, minerals and good fats that they need for superhealth - nutritious as well as delicious! For the first time they start to nurture their bodies and benefit from renewed vitality, clarity of mind and boundless energy that is theirs in return. And the weight loss is a side effect. The reason why it works is that restrictive diets cause an initial loss of water and glycogen, not actual body fat. So what happens is that weight is lost quickly and the regained just as fast once prior eating habits are resumed. With a slower approach, you will ensure that body fat is lost gradually, and one binge does not result in fat regain, especially when followed by the focused approach that you had before the binge occurred.
The reality is that losing body fat is a slow process and was never intended to be a ‘straight line’, instead there are undulations along the way. Once this is accepted and you allow yourself to relax, eat well and get rid of all that negativity, you are onto a winner!
So I ask you to look at weight loss from a new prospective - imagine you are now preparing yourself properly, you have new knowledge, you have new tools and you have committed to a tried and tested method with continuity and focus. This time it is different and you can use the tools you will be given to ensure you get the body that's right for you, not the scales or magazine models. Break your goals down into smaller chunks to be achieved week by week just like if you were building a house and start with strong foundations and build it bit by bit. If it’s strong it won’t tumble!
So to help you with this changing attitude, have a think about any limiting beliefs that have not served you well in the past and write them down. Then using the examples shown below, change these limiting beliefs into empowering alternative statements that will serve you better to make the change you want. Here are some common examples:
Limiting belief and empowering alternatives:
" I tried everything and nothing works" could become "the diets I did in the past didn't suit me, this time I have a great plan to follow, I know I can change anything if I commit to it"
"dieting is so dull" could become "I am not on a diet, I am choosing to eat healthily and the food is quite delicious, I'm not depriving myself at all"
"this is too difficult, I haven't got time" could become "I really want to feel fit and healthy and I will create the time to put myself top of my agenda"
"all my family struggle with their weight" could become "I won't let a lifetime of bad eating habits keep me this way, I will find out how to eat healthily and bring about the change I want"
"I can't be bothered to exercise" could become "the joy and vitality I feel when I get moving is irreplaceable"
Remember a limiting belief is just that - a belief - it has no foundation in reality. Every time you come up with a negative reason for spoiling your good efforts - stop and immediately replace it with an empowering alternative that will get you back on track. Eventually you will create new habits and those old beliefs will have faded into the past, no longer something you allow to get in the way of your success.
Good luck and let me know how you get on!